Tuesday, September 27, 2011

Birthday Bliss, Part II


As if my birthday present on Saturday night wasn’t enough, Sunday completed a weekend of birthday merriment.

On Saturday, Erica had mentioned that she regretted not telling me to head up to Nashville early enough to eat at one of her favorite eateries—The Loveless Café. I had heard her mention it and its wonders before, so I was immediately disappointed as well. Wouldn’t you know that Sunday morning, Lauren pokes her head into my bedroom to say, “Hey, there’s this place just down the road called the Loveless. Were you planning on sticking around for lunch?” As it turns out, the restaurant closest to Lauren and Ivan’s is the Loveless Café.

With this little piece of fate sliding right into place, I knew it was going to be a good day. We headed on our merry way over to the Loveless to begin our one and a half hour wait. At some places, this would be outrageous, but at the Loveless it’s pretty standard business. With that in mind, the café has turned the parts of its campus that were once an adjoining motel into a country store and other merchant booths. So we spent our hour and a half sipping Coca-Cola from an old-fashioned glass bottle and sitting on the porch of the country store. I also picked up a few little happies there—a combo package of a Moon Pie and RC Cola and a trio pack of the Loveless’ famous fruit preserves.

Inside the Loveless, I at last encountered what Erica must love so much. They start off the meal with made-from-scratch biscuits that could give my Great-Grandma Vice a run for her money—she’s past on now or I wouldn’t dare say that aloud—and a sample dish of preserves: peach, strawberry, and blackberry. Alex and Lauren agreed that their favorite was the strawberry, but I leaned more toward the peach. I think my mom’s going to love the blackberry, though, so I splurged on the trio pack, as mentioned. After an appetizer of biscuits and preserves, I slid right on into my chocolate chip pancakes. Oh. My. Word. I love you, Huddle House, but please get with it. Alex created a sample platter of breakfast-meat biscuits from the a la carte menu, and Lauren had the steak biscuit with a side of hashbrown casserole. I helped myself to a little sampling of both of theirs, and I was pleased with all of it. Well done, Loveless. It was worth the wait.

It was hard to move after our lunch-gorge, but we pressed forward with our next big adventure: the Nashville Zoo. Alex and I have been talking about going to a zoo for some time now, but we’ve been waiting for a weekend that wasn’t sweltering hot. On this Sunday, the weather was, of course, ideal. ‘Ideal,’ in fact, seemed to be the theme of the weekend.

When we arrived at the Zoo, Alex wanted to park in the elephant parking lot, and I insisted that we find the tiger parking lot, so we compromised with the gibbon parking lot (that’s a monkey, if you haven’t brushed up on your zoo animals lately) and made our way to the entrance. As we waited to buy our tickets, I stood by and listened for a moment before realizing that everyone else was speaking another language. As my eyes drifted toward the memo kiosk, I saw that it was Latin Family Fun Fest day at the Nashville Zoo. With mariachi bands playing over the PA system, Alex and I felt right at home all day long.

My greatest take away from the zoo is this: I can’t wait to talk to God about it. Throughout the day, Alex and I tried to guess what God was thinking about when he made these creatures, like a tortoise that looked like a s’more with marshmallows bubbling out of its shell. We marveled too that it was no wonder that the snake was the vessel of Satan in the Garden—every slither of this particular animal looks deceitful and intimidating. I get shivers just thinking about it. And I would have loved to have discussed the spiders with Alex, but someone had to skip to the next exhibit each time we encountered a spider. But I won’t name names.

My favorite exhibit, as it has been since my parents took my brother and I to the Atlanta Zoo, was the meerkat exhibit. Cutest. Animals. Ever. These adorable little creatures vacillate between supremely alert—sitting back on their haunches with their little arms drawn up to their chests, peering around at the intruders in their midst—to lazy and lounging. We watched as one meerkat reclined on his back on a sunbathed rock, his eyes slowly shutting every few minutes just to fly open when his head snapped back with full-on sleep—it reminded me of trying to sit through “Big Church” at my grandmother’s church as a child.

I had looked forward to seeing my Tiger brethren all day, and was delighted to alight upon them just in time for the keeper’s talk. Unfortunately, my bubble of interest in these giant kitties was burst when the keeper told me that the tigers, ripping and shredding chunks of meat in their little “jungle” home, were dining on horsemeat. I asked him where the zoo found said horsemeat and was told that, since horse slaughterhouses are illegal in the U.S. (for good reason!!), they imported the horsemeat from Toronto. Apparently, the horse meat is closer to what the Bengals would be eating in the wild, but I was happier thinking that they dined on some equally delicious mystery meat, harvested painlessly from a non-existent animal.

By the time we got to the African section of the Zoo, where the giraffes, zebras, and elephants were waiting for us, we had hiked what we guessed was about 3 miles. Before, we had thought that parents pushing their kids in strollers were promoting slothfulness. Not so—these parents were, in fact, preventing hours of whining and complaining. Three miles or so is quite the little journey for such little legs. Duly noted.

After a short break in the bamboo forest to rest our weary feet, we had only the African safari left to conquer. The elephants were truly breathtaking. They look so gentle, and yet they’re so large and magnificent. They get an extra large section of the zoo since they need that much more roaming space, so we were able to view them from multiple vantage points, and I was fascinated and each and every stop.

Our last stop in Africa, and before the exit, was the giraffe exhibit. Their bizarre proportions make them absolutely fascinating, and their affectionate behavior had me ooh-ing and ahh-ing before we even came to a complete stop. It wasn’t long, however, before I recognized this “affection” for what it really was. As the smaller female giraffe stood innocently by, the larger male would cozy up behind her. He stood there quietly for a moment, like he was giving her time to acclimate to the closer vicinity. Then he would nudge a little further forward, at which time the female would casually walk away. At first, I thought that the male was about to force his will on her, but it soon became apparent that the female was flirting, as she nuzzled the male’s neck as she walked away. After a few moments of this mating dance, it seemed that a little, shall we say, “animal husbandry” was inevitable, and Alex wasn’t sure he could stand by and watch. After having my own tiger dreams crushed, I decided his perception of the animal kingdom as sweet and miraculous was better left spared.

So as far as we’re concerned, tigers eat giant kitty treats and giraffes are brought by enormous storks and zoos are the perfect way to end a perfect weekend.

Birthday Bliss


Ladies and gentlemen, drum roll please…

The winner of the 2011 Boyfriend of the Year Award goes to… my very own, Alex Ruggles!

For my 24th birthday (technically, September 28), Alex gifted me with two tickets to see one Taylor Swift in concert in Nashville. If you know me, you know that this is a really, really, really big deal. From the moment he told me, I knew this was going to be a ridiculously cool birthday present. And I just had no idea.

On the last weekend of August, Alex and I had gone to Muscle Shoals to visit his parents. On the way home from church, I suggested that we have some of my friends who Alex hadn’t met yet over on a weekend that I knew Alex was going to be in Guntersville. Immediately, he said no, don’t plan anything. Perturbed by my endless need to plan weeks in advance, he told me that “the cat was halfway out of the bag,” and further illustrated that the cat’s back legs were out and now it was just going crazy with its head left in the bag. Hello, internal struggle.

A few hours later, we had made our way onto a jet ski and into the middle of the lake, and Alex could take it no longer. The cat in the bag was apparently getting frantic. So we stopped there in the middle of the lake and he dropped one of his signature truth bombs on me: on Saturday, September 17, we were going to see my girl Taylor in Nashville. He had already talked it over with my best friend Lauren, and we were going to crash at her and her husband’s home in Nashville. Taylor Swift and my lifetime bestie in one weekend? Could it get any better? Oh yes, indeed it could.

We arrived in Nashville on Saturday just in time to have a cheeseburger at an Irish pub just off Broadway in Downtown Nashville. The smell and the sparse crowd weren’t promising, but the burgers were surprisingly good—I guess low expectations can go a long way. Afterward, we trekked back up Broadway to the Bridgestone Arena.

I had carefully not allowed myself to get too worked up until this moment. As we approached the arena—dressed just like the rest of Nashville with me in my sundress and cowboy boots and Alex in plaid and dark jeans—my heart began to race and my camera took on a life of its own. I took snapshot after snapshot of downtown, the arena, the tour bus, us in downtown, us in front of the arena, us in front of the tour bus, us on the escalator… you get the picture.

The show started out by opening with a band called Needtobreathe. All I knew about this band is that it is a good friend of mine’s favorite and the only part of the show that Al was really looking forward to (although he put up a good show for my sake). Needtobreathe didn’t disappoint—the band was truly talented from the musicians to the lyrics.

And then…. The Main Event! After a brief intermission, Taylor came out in a shower of theatrics. She worked a metallic gold dressed and belted out ‘Sparks Fly’ before letting the crowd know how happy she was to see us. Obviously, she meant me, but I understand that she felt like she needed to acknowledge everyone else. It’s just good business.

Taylor has this delightful way of coming out on stage with this “Aw, shucks” look, as though she’s truly shocked to find us all here watching. After almost every number, her jaw drops and she looks around in awe as the crowd goes wild around her. This could seem a bit contrived if you think about it—I assume she does this same routine at every show she does—but if it is, I would like to nominate Taylor for an Oscar. Even Alex agreed that she seemed completely and truly humbled to have so many people there supporting her.

In between “sets,” when Taylor was being changed into her next costume and the stage was magically morphing into a new scene, a chimney sweep tapped his way across the stage in an extremely entertaining show of talent. And then Taylor popped out of the floor, seemingly from nowhere. In her white flowing prairie dress, she picked up a banjo and joined a string band for a few numbers, including the first Taylor song I ever really loved—Our Song.

I could describe every set change, but then this blog is getting long enough as it is. Bravo if you’ve stuck with it. So I’ll just hit the highlights. Among them, a tree made up of twinkling Christmas lights descended into the audience in the back of the arena, so Taylor made her way—escorted by multiple guards—through a crowd of fainting teenagers desperately reaching out for a touch from their idol. And she obliged, over and over. At the back of the arena, she sat at the base of the tree and played Fearless, Last Kiss, and a few others while the tree turned slowly, giving all of us in the back a closer look.

After she made her way back to the stage, there many more memorable costume changes, but the most excitement was brought about by the “special friends” Taylor brought out. First, she introduced a man known and loved throughout the South for his songs about youth, football, and summertime… “Ladies and gentlemen, Mr. Kenny Chesney!” Kenny came out to a roar of applause and played a duet with Taylor—of course, he seemed to be a bit intoxicated and seemed to lose his way around the second verse, but he eventually caught back up and finished strong. Apparently, this is a pretty common happening with ol’ Kenny.

And then, the grand finale. As all stars do, Taylor brought down the curtain and the crowd went wild for an encored. The curtain opened once more to an open stage—out of the center of the stage, a couch was rising slowly. Perched a top in a yards and yards of tulle, was Taylor with a man in a black cowboy hat who could be recognized even at my seat in the upper deck.

“Is that TIM MCGRAW!?!? Oh my gosh, that’s Tim McGraw!!”

At this point, I just lost my mind. I leaned forward with my jaw dropped for the duration of Tim’s song—Just to See You Smile—and for nearly an hour afterward. Now, at this point, we lost most of the 10-18 year old audience. They looked around at each other confused as to why their parents and other adults were going nuts, but I immediately morphed into a teenage girl at an N*Sync concert. At the peak of his fame when I was 13, the man’s still got it at 23-going-on-24.

So there you have it—what is quite possibly my best birthday present ever. And to think, my “birthday weekend” (a little early though it was) wasn’t even over yet.

Sunday, September 18, 2011

fantasy.

I recently delved into a phenomenon that's sweeping the cyber world: Pinterest.

Pinterest is a website that allows you to create as many "pinboards" as you like, basically bookmarking every good idea you see online onto one page. Not only can you pin your own finds, you can peruse all your friends good ideas and re-pin them on your own board. 

My pin boards are pretty common: Fashion Inspirations, Craft Projects, Wedding Ideas, Dream Home Ideas, and even Nursery Ideas. I would be embarrassed about some of these if every other woman, single or married, didn't have these very same board. And like every other woman on Pinterest, I have spent hours dreaming of what might future might look like, from the most beautiful outdoor fireplaces that I hope to find in my backyard some day, to cute fall outfits that I hope will find their way into my closet, to cute wedding favors that just might pop up at my reception someday. 

In all of my excitement, I forced Boyfriend to have a look at all my new boards. His only comment was, "Girls don't understand guys' interest in fantasy football, and y'all manage to have an entire fantasy LIFE online." 

And I thought, truer words have never been spoken. Each year, men around the country gather to draft their favorite athletes onto fantasy sports teams that will compete with each other throughout the season. Now, I'm not entirely sure how it works, but I do know that each week you face off with a different guy from your league and, depending on how your respective players do that Sunday/Monday, a winner is declared. For instance, all day today Alex has been checking NFL scores to see how he's doing in his game against his roommate. 

Fantasy baseball seems to be a bit more consuming than fantasy football, but either way, girlfriends and wives all over the nation find themselves rolling their eyes as their significant others obsess over "their" players.

But Alex is right, they might be fantasizing about their sports teams; meanwhile, we ladies have developed fantasy lives in a parallel cyber universe to obsess over. 

But you know, that's pretty much okay with me, and now I'm off to pin and repin. 

Wednesday, September 14, 2011

match.edu

Apparently, the world of education is the new dating scene.

Student: Miss Hays, do you have a boyfriend?
Me: Yes, I do.
Student: I have a math test later today.
Me: (blank stare) Okay....?
Student: Oh, I thought we were talking about things we could cheat on.

Later, I was meeting with a student who had guessed I was 19, then wanted to know if I had kids, then wanted to know if I was married (logical order):
Student: So are you married?
Me: Nope, not married, no kids.
Student: Well, I could hook you up.
Me: I have a boyfriend, but I'm curious who you were going to hook me up with.
Student: ... my dad.
Me: Yeah... I'll just stick with what I've got.
Student: Or I could hook you up with my uncle.
Me: That's okay, I'm pretty happy where I'm at.

Later she told me that her dad had a girlfriend, but, "she's the kind of girlfriend that lets him hang out with other ladies." I guess that's where I come in.

So... I could date a junior in high school and go to jail for the rest of my life or become a student's stepmother. Endless options.

Sunday, September 11, 2011

9.11.01

I was 13. Two weeks from 14, and in the 8th grade. Mrs. Hudgins' Algreba class, to be exact.

We knew something was up because teachers kept coming to our door and whispering to Mrs. Hudgins, and there seemed to be some debate over whether or not to turn on the classroom television.

I didn't even know what the World Trade Centers were, to be honest, but apparently a plane had crashed into one of them. A fluke accident, probably. "Terrorism" wasn't a word I was familiar with in middle school.

As I walked into the Gifted Ed. room for my next class, Mrs. Zimmer had the television on-- I don't know if this was a rogue decision on her part or if had finally been decided that the students should be informed. As I put my mesh backpack down, I watched as a plane flew into a tower, and I asked Mrs. Zimmer if this was a replay of what had happened earlier. When she told me that, no, this was live, my 'fluke accident' theory was shot.

I was blissfully unaware that anyone wouldn't like America; we were America, after all. I can even remember thinking proudly that we'd never been on the losing end of a war-- we rocked out that whole Revolution thing, and it seems we were a critical part of those world wars. So who would attack us?... and why?

So when the commentators on the news started postulating this idea that we had been attacked by terrorists, the terrorists got just what they had aimed for-- I was terrified. In my eighth grade mind, I imagined foreigners parachuting into Guntersville, bombs dropping on TVA, and a new regime setting up in DC. In fact, we had a minor earthquake a few days later and it occurred to me for a moment that Suddam Hussein must have just landed and set up shop here in Marshall County.

Ten years later, I still don't board a plane without wondering if I'll ever land, and not because the idea of a multi-ton vehicle flying through the air just boggles my mind to pieces.

So what I've seen on the news, on yard signs, and on Twitter and Facebook all day-- We Will Never Forget-- is true. Ten years later, it's as clear in my almost-24 mind as it was when I was just almost-14. And I suspect when I'm old and withered and almost-34, I still will not have forgotten exactly what was I doing when Terror crashed into America.

Saturday, September 10, 2011

Call me a bad sport...

... if you want, but Saturdays in the South are proving very hard on me for some reason.

Well, 'some reason' is a bit misleading as I know precisely what the reason is. Namely, Alabama fans.

I don't know why I'm so fiercely protective of Auburn. It's really not just my football team, coaching staff, or adorable mascot, although those things all factor in quite a bit by now.

High school was not a fun time for me. I'll never be one of those people that dreams of going back to high school. I was uncomfortable with growing up-- anyone that smoked or cursed or drank was on my black list immediately. I witnessed more bullying than I experienced, but it was enough to make my skin crawl. I never really fit into one clique or another at my dear alma mater, as I was neither star athlete or beauty queen. I was average at best, and quite resentful of those who got to the top as they seemed to embody all the things I deemed intolerable.

So when it came time to graduate, I was hardly shedding tears and reminiscing about the Golden Days. I was packed and ready to go by the last day of my senior year, with a whole summer to wait on my big move. When the time finally came, I didn't just walk onto Auburn's campus-- I bounded.

And for the first time since kindergarten, when I ruled the playground as the Pink Power Ranger, I felt accepted. I quickly made friends and sorority sisters that have been with me ever since, and I can't say that my college memories had to fight for space among my high school memories. I went to a church pastored by the Godliest man I've ever met. Between my church family and my Auburn family, I learned an infinite amount about relationships and quite a bit about myself.

So to me, Auburn is very, very personal. It is family, no matter how hokey those outside the family think that may be. And when Bama fans attack my family for no other reason than that they're an Alabama fan, it especially gets under my skin. Especially those that don't know enough about football to actually criticize the team, and instead go for things like Gene Chizik's outfit or the shape of our stadium. It's one thing to say our defense is garbage-- I'll give you that; it's not our best year. But let's leave it at that, can we?

I don't trash talk-- ever. And later today, I won't magically morph into a Penn State fan. That's ridiculous. I'm an Auburn fan, and that's it.

So get a grip. I'm thrilled to death that you guys have had a good team for the past couple of years, but I'm old enough to remember the Shula years and so are you. And that's what makes our rivalry the best in the nation-- there is no consistent victor. Both teams have had dynasties, and both teams have had the lost years. So let's play nice. Here's a novel idea: what if Auburn fans focus their energy on cheering for Auburn instead of against Alabama (with the Iron Bowl being the obvious exception), and Bama fans do the same. I know, that'd be pretty crazy.

I'm sorry I'm not sorry for this rant. I never thought I'd be this fan, but... when you insult Auburn, you insult me. Today I came close to cussing a little group of Bama fans, but instead I wrote this passive aggressive blog instead. You're welcome.

Friday, September 9, 2011

doppelganger?

Last week when I subbed at the high school, a student told me I looked "just like the girl from Big Fish." She couldn't remember her name, but she knew that she was "awesome and she's married to Tim Burton."

Oooooh....


So I'm not sure that it's super flattering... but at least she's skinny, right? And obviously, she has a really great thing going with cats. 

Tuesday, September 6, 2011

one of those days.

Sometimes, it's just one of those days. And those days usually start the moment you wake up and somehow manage to stay with you until the moment you drift off-- assuming, of course, that you're able to drift off. Sometimes after a day like today, sleep doesn't come easy.

I-- at a towering 5'3-- managed to pull the sheets off not one but two corners of my bed before I woke up this morning. Wrapped in a cocoon of warm sheets, I woke up 27 minutes after my alarm woke up to a February day right smack in the middle of September.

I managed to make it to work almost on time, though I was unfed and quite rained on. First thing, I dove straight into a character lesson with a group of 6th graders who just stared me like I was reading the proctoring instructions of an SAT test.

(I can say, at least, that the lessons got progressively better as the day went by... so there's that, I guess).

Aside from a 30-minute lesson each period, I started meeting individually with students at the end of each period. Now, for obvious reasons, I can't divulge any information that was given to me, but I can say at least that I have heard stories in just one day that will haunt me and puzzle me for a lifetime. Some doubtful, some exaggerated, and others just absolutely horrific... If anyone truly believes that man is born innocent and corrupted by the world, I'm here to tell you that it's not so. The depravity of humanity is so much more than I can take on a grey day like today, and I feel I must apologize as I think I must have projected my mood onto the sky.

After school, I headed to extended day where we began a new program under the direction of yours truly. Never-have-I-ever directed such a program, so it's safe to assume that it was mass chaos. 50-some-odd elementary school students flooded into my classroom at 3:00 and the shrill of their high-pitched little voices drowned me and my authority out completely. The moral of this story is that we'll be trying something different come Thursday... a little something called 'organization.'

At home, I had agreed to do some special music with my dad and a friend from church on Sunday, so we had scheduled a little practice session tonight. It's moments like this when my hopeless lack of talent is glaring, and the realization that I'm mediocre at best hits me straight in the face. Sure, I can carry a tune, and perhaps even a pleasant one at that. But when the music starts and I'm on my own, it's a whole 'nother world. My timing is off, or my pitch is flat... and I can't harmonize to save my life, which is quite crippling in the music world. It's like choreographing a dance around a kid in a wheelchair.

So there's that. It's been one of those days. I can't decide if I want to cry or run or sleep or steam in a bubble bath. It's looking like I might do all of the above, if I can crawl out of my little crab cave first.

Saturday, September 3, 2011

Stop This Train.

This is one of my favorite John Mayer tunes-- and that's saying a lot, since pretty much every song he writes is perfection. The lyrics just get me every time; in so many ways, this is where I am in life: pushing forward then falling back, excited for the next adventure but terrified to round the corner. Here, I'll let John tell you...

So scared of getting older,
I'm only good at being young.
So I play the numbers game to find a way to say that life has just begun.
Had a talk with my old man, said, "Help me understand."
He said, "Turn 68, you'll renegotiate. 
Don't stop this train.
Don't for a minute change the place you're in."

So I like to think, "Okay, I'm 23-- 24 in less than a month-- and that's young. Like, really young. Closer to 20 than 30, and not even halfway to 50." I tell myself that I'm still a student, young and unmarried; my body is should be at the peak of existence, and I've never felt more comfortable with myself than at this very young age.

But then I work a day at the high school, and I think, "It's been a lifetime since I sat where you are." I wonder about the girls who went through rush this year and I realize this group of college freshmen were in middle school when I graduated high school. 

And I have conversations with my mom about 'that one time I worked at Storybook Farm' and then I realized that was my sophomore year of college... that was three boyfriends and about six hair colors ago. 

I think about what I was scared of and what I thought was cool, and I can honestly say that I wouldn't go back. I'll never be one of those people that refers to my time in high school as my golden years, and, while I loved Auburn more than any other time in my life, I wouldn't go back... because I might wake up at a different time one morning and change the entire story. Because the truth is, I'm right where I want to be.

And as beautiful and content as it is here, it's kind of terrifying to think about moving forward. Because forward isn't comfortable. Seeing clients in clinic because I'm officially at that level of grad school isn't comfortable; it's crazy. I'm only 23, for crying out loud. And taking comps and looking for jobs isn't comfortable; it's frightening. I'm too young to be an adult. But then again, my mother was married when she was my age... not living in her parents' basement.

So here I am: so close, yet so far away. An old fart one day, and a spring chicken the next. But most of those days, I just won't to stop the train. Just hit the pause button for a moment.